Success: What Does That Word Mean to YOU?
Webster’s New Collegiate Dictionary sub-defines success as “the attainment of wealth, favor or eminence”.
The problem with the word success is that sadly, most of us think that wealth – in the monetary sense – actually is a mandatory component of success, but nothing could be further from the truth. The Belair mansion, the swimming pool, supermodel wife, Porsche… they are all material liabilities. That’s right, LIABILITIES. They are the master and you are the slave.
As you unconsciously let the media make your moral AND material decisions for you, you are misled by your subconscious desires instead of following the logic of your needs (thanks to Edward Bernays, known as the ‘father’ of modern day public relations; he was Sigmund Freud’s nephew). We are victims of consumer dysfunction and irrational thinking that is shoved down our throats. Well, you could argue that we all need a house, a car and possibly a wife, so what’s wrong with having the DELUXE version of these things? That should be considered a LUXURY…not a liability!
Webster’s quotes the word luxury as “Excess. Something added to pleasure or comfort but not absolutely necessary”. So what IS necessary? It’s not hard to figure out as long as you are HONEST with yourself. Why burdened your life with liabilities you can’t afford, have to maintain and will constantly seek more of? And you WILL seek more. You HAVE to keep up with the Kardashians… Society demands it. You are judged by how many toys you have. But don’t you eventually outgrow toys? But, because you let your WANTS be placed above your NEEDS…well, you become a slave to living a life of self-created demands that you will never satisfy.
ANYTHING above your means can be your liability. Let’s substitute the word success with fulfillment, which infers a sense of peace and happiness. Happiness, isn’t that our underlying quest in life? Even Sammy Satan, the Death Metal bassist who lives next door wants to be happy. When it makes us feel good to hold the door open for an older person or help a child, why don’t we do more of it? Many of us may never have even tried it. Give to others and you’ll get back not only what you need but much more than any amount of money could ever buy. It’s free and it multiplies. Stop being resentful of what you don’t have; of what you think life owes you. Success is how you look at life, NOT how someone else sees it FOR you. Now go do something for someone else…something…ANYTHING! You’ll experience what everyone else is missing…to GET you must GIVE!
Footnote: I would NEVER want the liability of a Porsche. I drive, by choice, a ’94 Plymouth Voyager: it has 4 tires, a steering wheel, and a good inspection sticker. It gets me from point ‘A’ to point ‘B’, I own it, I’m not a slave to making payments. It’s OK if it’s gets a dent here or there or I spill some coffee inside…who cares? I’ll bet the Porsche owner would. He may have a lot of money but he’s a slave to A CAR!
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