Hail to the Almighty…WEDDING BAND!
I distinctly remember how close minded and self righteous I was as a young artist. (see my story) I was absolutely certain that I had to be touring the world and playing in front of thousands of people to be a success. Looking back I neglected that one crucial element… I never defined success.
But that’s part of this story. At some point in his career every musician on the planet earth struggles with how they can make money from playing their instrument. I heard the same advice time and time again from people much older and wiser than me: ‘Why don’t you try playing in a wedding band? You can keep your long hair.”
I remember firing a machine gun of my know-it-all-at-21 arsenal of “metal or die” rationalizations. What losers they were! They would be giving ANYTHING to be where I’ll be. They WISHED they could play in front of thousands of people and tour the world like I will… SOON! You wait and see, I’ll show YOU and everyone else! You’ll all be standing in the same line as the rest of my autograph seekers!
Well, God’s path unfolded, and of course thinking that it was of my own doing, I DID end up touring the world and playing in front of thousands of people. And I also sold a lot of records. And I never got paid. And I couldn’t pay my bills. And I was a slave to my tour itinerary. And I became an alcoholic. It was then that I experienced my first serious thoughts of suicide.
Yep, I showed them all right…to think that I would trade up all the perks of my TENTATIVE rock-star celebrity status to only have to work 2 days a week, for only a couple hours each night, get fed fantastic food, have pretty girls in tight dresses dancing in front of me, and be able to go home at night to sleep in my own bed… AND GET PAID EVERY NIGHT…Why would I ever want to do that?
Now of course, I would never have lasted playing Bob Seger covers in a tuxedo, I was too rebellious for that. But because I CHOSE to be close-minded , I opted to work as a supermarket stock boy for minimum wage instead of even CONSIDERING making money – a LOT of money – by playing my instrument because it wasn’t THE EXACT WAY THAT I WANTED.
I heard Dave Matthews say it the best: “I can’t tell you how to get rich. But, if ya wanna play…well, just go and play”. I never realized THAT THE ACTUAL PLAYING WAS THE SUCCESS. Don’t preconceive something in your head that you don’t know anything about. I chose to put Campbell’s soup cans on shelves because I didn’t want to wear a tuxedo… You’ll never catch me wearing one of those… But, uh, yeah, I’d wear one for the Grammy’s…
THERE IS A SOLUTION.
Please help make it happen.
PROBLEMS CAN’T BE SOLVED WHEN YOU DON’T UNDERSTAND THE PROBLEM.